Good luck is coming your way
I always loved my family get together. As a kid coming from a middleclass background, it was something to look forward to. So much fun, laughter and delicious food. In one such get together, a glass tumbler slipped from my hand and broke. I was terrified and was about to cry fearing a nice scolding from elders. Instead, some god sent elderly samaritan saved me by saying, “Good. Something really bad was about to happen, that’s been averted.”
At first, I thought that he must have made this up so that I can escape from an embarrassing situation. But then, growing up, I heard the same remark again and again from different people. That’s when I got to know that it is a belief. As a teenager I used to have fun thinking, what a stupid myth it is!! This must have been made up by some clumsy person for sure.
Like every other person, I also went through a fair share of sorrow and sadness. Some disturbed me for a few minutes or hours. And some deep-rooted issues took more time to resolve.
And then, there were a few which stayed for a longer time. These make you question yourself, “Why me?”, “What did I do wrong?”, “Why is god punishing me like this?”. I was going through one such difficult patch in life. Where nothing was interesting any more. The fun was squeezed out and everything just seemed very dry. I was really low.
That’s when for some business purpose, I had to be regularly in touch with a person named Sachin. Once our friendship reached a better ground, I confided in him the issues that I was going through. He heard me out and instead of pushing any idea or suggestions, he just said, “Don’t worry, whatever happens, happens for the best. You may not be able to see the good now, but you will eventually see it. Just give some time.”
I was not in a state to agree to what he said. Still, it definitely felt good. I did feel a little lighter. Then after every time we met, the goodbye from him used to be the same sentence. “Whatever happens, happens for the best.” I even heard him say this to other people as well. That was his belief. Slowly, the idea started to sink in. I was able to come out of my depressive state much faster. I got back with my life with a renewed sense of enthusiasm and energy.
Slowly, without realising, I also imbibed the idea and it became my belief as well. This helped me to refrain myself from blowing up an issue into a mountain. Because my perspective of looking at issues changed. It helped me to stay afloat. Nothing ever weighed me down. I was reminded of the belief about the glass break and now it all made sense. I understood that either it’s true that something bad was averted or now that it’s broken and nothing can be done about it, forget it and move on. Either way, the belief was beneficial.
Life became more fun and lighter. From that day onwards no issue managed to disturb me to that level.
But, one question always lingered. And that was the loss of a loved one. I couldn’t get a closure of losing my dad when I was just 15. I couldn’t see why this was for the best? And, then one day while empathizing with a friend for a death in his family, instinctively these words just flowed without me realizing it, “May be this was the best time for him to leave. What if there was struggle and suffering for him in the future?”
And that was the day that I got a closure. Not everything happens for my best interest only. Yes, I still miss my dad. But maybe, that was the best for him. And if my love is selfless, then I can see the best in that as well.
So, today I am just forwarding the mantra that has eased my life and made it better. Do the best that you can. And believe that whatever happens, happens for the best.
Keep smiling. Enjoy life. Love you all.
Rajesh Rajan.
Your Happiness Coach
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